I just recently joined this community, and I wanted to wish everyone well. :-) I have not joined communities nor have I ever had an online journal like this... I am a web designer and tend to create my own sites and journalize that way. However, LJ offered something unique - a community and way of networking and meeting people. That is what I hope to do :-) My husband and I have discovered over the years that we have differing spiritual beliefs (religious beliefs if you wish to call them that) than most of our friends. I am not necessarily on a search or a quest to find others like me, but I would like to explore and see what is out there.
Thank you for firstly letting me join and secondly actually reading my babble here. ;-) I am happy to be a member of this community!
Looking to find out people opinions and knowledge about the following question(s)... Any input would be of interest to me...
Been into the whole, expanding of knowledge thing lately, and it's spreading into some interesting topics....
What do people think about being a "kept" woman...
Is this something you would ever consider or something you have ever considered and why, and if you have done it, what experiences you got from it...
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I just wanted you to know I changed my user name from herbwench to whiteravenwoman. So, when you see posts under this name it is still me!
For the first time today I read a comment on my personality type (INTJ) that may explain why I have such difficulty in proceeding with the work I want to do here. It was in a blog (not lj) by someone called The Everlasting Phelps:
"The functional analysis of an INTJ shows that the dominant function is Introverted Intuition, and the secondary function is Extroverted Thinking. What does that mean? I know things. That is introverted intuition. My brain makes connections without me trying, and everything fits into the web of the world. The problem with that is that it is internal. Yeah, I know, but so what? It is all nebulous, and I am the only one who can understand it. Given the Ni alone, I'm never going to be able to really understand it myself in anything more than a mystical sense, much less explain it to someone else. I have to put it into words, and that is where the extroverted thinking comes in. It is thinking out loud, so to speak. When I do that, then the Ni and the Te work together, and that is where the "Mastermind" strength that Myers and Briggs and Kiersey saw come from. Each reinforces the other, and act as checks and balances. But to do that, I must commit it. I have to write it, say it, hell, pantomime it -- because it I never do any of those, and I just sit thinking, it rarely gets past the Ni. "
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First off, I would like to say thank you for accepting my application/request.
Secondly, a little bit about myself...
I'm 22 years old and most people have said that for my age I've gone through more than any others in the same age group...
By the age of 18 I was engaged... Always wondered why it was I did that but as a result I've come up with that I felt I could do no better... Since that time I have learned that is not true and that I was settling for something that made me uphappy. A vow to myself after that day was that I would never do this again as I was unhappy and well, in the same token, so was he.
The last year has been a real learning experience for me, living on my own in a city other than that of which my parents live. From living on my own I've come to the following conclusions:
1) It's harder than anyone thinks
2) In reality, no one is really ready or prepared to move out on their own
3) It is the first step in "finding yourself".
4) Over time you figure out what you are looking for being without your parents and work towards it
5) I love it! As I'm sure every other person feels after they begin to settle and sort things out.
I have also learned that an engagement is not something to be taken lightly and that even if you are asked, it does not mean you have to say yes. Personally you need to know them for awhile before saying yes, preferably as a friend as well as a lover... and when asked, I think it may be better not to give an answer right away... Even if it is a 5 minute thought process, giving yourself some time to think about and register what was just asked is most important because saying yes means that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person....
In the position I am in now, I do live with another man whom I am interested in dating, however we are not doing this because we have only known each other a couple weeks and met only because he moved into the house. We have decided the best thing for us is to wait and work on the friendship first, later doing the dating thing and seeing where that takes us. A promise was made though, and that promise was that we would be together and that till we are together, neither him nor I will see another in our bed with us... I think this was very special of him to say as it shows alot about his character...
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In an unprecedented move, and in an attempt to make an end-run around whatever it is that's trying to prevent me from getting this down, I created a map, of sorts, of my progress so far. It will serve as an outline and remind me of what I want to write about next, in some sort of order albeit not exactly chronological--too many things overlapped in my consciousness.
Of course, historically once I've completed an outline of something I then consider it finished and never do write the whole thing out..just another example of one of the ways I'm blocked from conveying this information.
I really need to do this. I can feel some sort of pressure building...
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